Wednesday, 16 October 2013

Sex toys, muscle clenching, orgasmic pleasure - and Pinky

Pinky: pic by Elizabeth Cage
When I was little, I started to masturbate.  I’m not sure how old I was, but I was barely walking, and I remember crawling on my belly on the carpet at a family gathering, and rubbing my girlie bits and thinking what a pleasurable sensation that was.  I wonder if my aunts, uncles and assorted relatives were aware of what was going on?

Anyway, obviously I didn’t know what I was doing, only that I liked it.  From that day on, I practised regularly, always using only the action of clenching and relaxing my muscles to achieve orgasm.

It’s quite strange to think of all the many devices and tools that are now readily at our disposable to give ourselves pleasure.  When I was growing up, the Ann Summers shop in the High Street simply didn’t exist in that form, and no-one spoke of such things.  When I first encountered porn films (not until my twenties!) I was astonished to see that women used their fingers to bring themselves off – it had never occurred to me to try that.  And, more bizarre still, when I saw my first vibrator (in my thirties), was the idea that this pink buzzing phallus could do the job equally effectively, if not better. 

It took me a long time to achieve orgasm with such a device, so used was I to the “no hands” method.  Now, it takes about 10 seconds. 

Pinky on holiday in Sussex: pic by Elizabeth Cage
Strange to think how much has changed over the past 45 years, and how openly we can view, buy and discuss what we call sex toys (I’d love to know who first coined that expression  and the use of the word toy…..interesting reflection on how we perceive sex…..)

Despite the plethora of plugs, dildos, butterflies, high tech rabbits, etc, my favourite “toy” is still my trusty pink jelly vibe from Ms Summers.  It does the trick for me.   Simple but effective.

Do you have a favourite toy?


  1. No favorite, I just brush myself against a soft surface to get that sensation!

  2. I don't have any because I have a horror of dying suddenly and my kids going through my things! Yours looks very tempting, though!